Passion and purpose
Passion and purpose are two terms that we frequently encounter today, and many people use them interchangeably. But is there a difference between them? Most definitely! To me, passion deals with emotions, motivation and doing what we genuinely enjoy and love. Passions can come and go or be modified. You can leave them at some point only to return to them later in life. Purpose, on the other hand, is all about the reason we do what we do, and it’s primarily for others. It’s how we contribute to the world. My passions, for example, are numerous and varied. I’m passionate about mindset, mental toughness, never giving up, motivation, grit/resilience, rugby, writing, energy management and performance recovery, nutrition, micro-dosing, teamwork, leadership, adventure and “over-the-horizon” exploration. My purpose, on the other hand, is much more focused. I want to help others, especially those who, for one reason or another, are spinning their wheels and finding it difficult to move forward in life. This is my purpose. If you’re very lucky, your passion and purpose coincide.
Sharing and helping
I love retired General Stanley McCrystal’s quote. “I believe that knowledge is only of value if you share it with someone who can do something with it. The fact that I know something has zero value if I’m not the person who can make something better because of it.” I want to help people become better by sharing my knowledge and experience. I want to help them identify opportunities and possibilities to realize their potential. I love to get people excited about what I’m excited about. I believe we all want to get better, but we’re not always sure how to do it. We listen to podcasts, attend lectures, read blog posts, maybe even buy some books to try and get better. This is why I write my blog.
The ugly hard truth
Do you ever wonder why some people keep going when others quit? Why some people never give up? Are they blessed with unique talents and skills? The short answer is No. They’re just like us. What’s the secret? The ugly hard truth is, there are no secrets. There is only the cycle of success and failure. We learn from our failures. But there’s a part of the cycle that people often don’t want to face – the part that feels hard – stepping out of their comfort zones. The part that involves struggle and the “suck.”Sometimes we need to be pointed in the right direction, but in the end, we must do the work ourselves.
Embrace the suck
There are no shortcuts to accomplish this work. There are no supplements to get where you want to go. You can’t skip it, minimize it or hack it. You’ve got to go through it. You’ve got to figure out what it is that you are trying to avoid, face that beast and kick its ass. But you’re thinking: “I want to make shit happen now.” But years of research and experience have proven the same thing time and again. If you want to step out of your comfort zone and conquer your fears, you’ve got to face them. And the only way to do that is to realize what they are so you can look those monsters in the eye and tell them to sit down, calm down and shut up. You must embrace the suck. You don’t gotta like it. You just gotta do it.
Who do I want to help? The short answer is anybody who wants to be better. The long answer is especially those who feel stuck and unable to get moving. I share my message at schools, organizations and companies. I don’t care if you’re young, middle-aged or old (like me), when you understand that the power to move forward, improve and change resides within you, then you can begin your journey. But to tap into this inner strength, you must believe that you can do it. Although I want to help you identify what you’re afraid of and learn how to push past it, you still need to do the hard work and ask yourself the important questions. What inspires me? What do I want? Where do I want to go? Remember, life is never linear. Sometimes you need to take a detour or even backtrack to make progress.
Luggage or baggage?
When you buy a suitcase, you’re purchasing luggage, not baggage, but when you fill it up, you’re carrying both luggage and baggage. The fundamental difference is that “baggage” has a greater scope of meaning than “luggage” and often implies negative events and experiences from the past. Which are you taking with you on your life’s journey? I want you to use your experiences as luggage to propel you forward on your journey – not as baggage that holds you back. This is my purpose, and that’s why I write this blog and give talks!